Maggie's

See what's happening in the Community

You are not logged in.   Log In

Conversations

What is a conversation?

You can talk to other members of Maggie's Online Centre by reading and participating in the conversations.

 

Find A Conversation

Start a new conversation.
 

Meet the team

As well as sharing experiences with our friendly online community, registered members are able to contact our experienced online team. The Centre is staffed during office hours and the online team aim to reply within 24 hours.

Psychologists and experts from other Maggie's Centres and partner organisations also facilitate some group and individual sessions.

Picture of Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions

Topic

Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions

Share how you are feeling and swap tips for managing stress with other members and the online team

  • 186 conversations

Bit Down

Started by Anonymous on 15 April 2014 at 12:12

Bit down at the moment as I have just finished RT for Prostate Cancer. My wife has had Breast Cancer twice, and is awaiting her 3rd set of dates for RT for her 3rd Cancer.

We went down to Littlehampton for 2 weeks convalescence leave for me, but on the penultimate day, collapsed with GRA, Group A Streptococcus and toxic shock. That was 12 days ago, came out of ITU yesterday.

Wrothing removed an abcess from a previous cancer site, and did an up to date biopsy, got the results yesterday, Stage 3 Aggressive. I do not have the heart to tell her this.

Comments (1)

Displaying 1 comments

  • Picture of SusieQ
    From SusieQ  
    15 April 2014 at 13:01
    Edited on: 15 April 2014 at 13:02

    Hello Javron,

    I've just sent you a personal message, but I thought I'd put a reply here too. It sounds like you and your wife are going through an awful time, and the convalescence you had been looking forward to was to become an extended visit to ITU.

    There is so much information for you to absorb following the result of the biopsy...I'm just not sure (forgive me...I'm probably not reading it very clearly) whether it is you or your wife who was taken ill during your break in Littlehampton. 

    I can understand the heartbreak of having to explain the findings of the recent biopsy to your wife. It may feel as if it's just one piece of bad luck after another.... You have possibly been together a long time though, and the information you hold about the biopsy results is likely better shared with her, as you're in this together..?

    I'm assuming that you and your wife's treatment will ultimately be back with your medical teams in your home area, rather than Worthing, and a treatment plan will be put together, once they've gathered all the information. If you both have specialist nurses, it would be worth giving them a call, and explaining what has just happened, so they can liaise with each other. When a husband and wife are both dealing with cancer diagnoses (not as uncommon as one might imagine), then good comminucation between hospital teams, GP's etc is essential...

    I dont know if you live near any of our Maggie's Centres, but if you do, it would be a good place to start to help you both get your heads round this latest development. Our online members may also be in touch, either in this conversation thread, or personally, to offer support and understanding. They will see what you're going through from the position of being there themselves...

    In the meantime, I hope you feel able to message Robyn or myself for some one to one support, encouragement...and a listening ear...

    Look foward to hearing from you,

    Very best wishes

    Sue


Displaying 1 comments

Latest Conversations

Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions


Registered Office: Maggie's, The Stables, Western General Hospital, Crewe Road, Edinburgh EH4 2XU   Registered Charity Number: SC024414
The Maggie Keswick Jencks Cancer Caring Centres Trust is a company limited by guarantee   Company Number: SC162451