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Not being able to socialise

Started by Anonymous on 31 March 2016 at 16:14

Struggling with my image and seeing close friends even though I'm fully aware they won't judge me. But sitting there fiddling with my scarf or wig and feeling self concious is getting me down. Also dreading coming into summer. Although I have a supportive and great partner I'm becoming insecure in the relationship and feel he'll be admiring everyone else but his bald headed partner. Finding it hard to discuss with him. Anyone else felt like this? Shadow of my former self today...

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    From SusieQ  
    31 March 2016 at 16:40

    Hello....

    It sounds like a tough day today...

    It's hard adjusting to a change (however temporary) in the way we look, and it can have a huge impact on confidence levels, and how we feel. Even the most confident person can start to feel vulnerable...especially when it can seem like there is so much emphasis seems to be on physical perfection and looking good.

    I wrote a blog, 'Cancer and body image' which may help understand what is happening to you, emotionally, whilst all this is going on - and there are some useful links to further reading. There's also some tips on how to cope with the current situation.

    The insecurity you're feeling is natural, even though it is likely to be unfounded. Your partner may not know the words to say to comfort or reassure you, men aren't always good at saying what we'd like to hear.

    There are many women (and men) on here who'll identify with what you're saying, and hopefully will say how it's been for them...

    I'll message you privately too, to introduce myself...and be assured you can message Robyn or myself anytime if you'd like some moral support and a space to talk things through...

    Warm wishes

    Sue

     

     


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