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My Dad - Overwhelming Tiredness

Started by Anonymous on 20 October 2017 at 12:58

My Dad is 70 and was diagnosed with Lung Cancer in April 2016 and had radiotherapy, which he responded well to. A brain scan in June highlighted 2 very small brain metastases and my Dad then had one treatment of Stereotactic radiosurgery.

In July the symptoms have got progressively worse, hospitalised for dizzieness in August.  Constant chest infections, coughing up blood, shoulder and back pain.  Subscribed Oramorf for the pain.  Finds it difficult getting in the shower without help.  Had a CT scan this week and we await the results.  Over the last couple of weeks my Dad has been very weak and needed a wheelchair to get to the ward for the scan and more concerning he has lost his appetite and is sleeping a lot during the day. 


I can see my dad going downhill and I don’t know what to expect.  Is this a blip and is there hope he will get better?  I want to understand the signs to look out for to ensure he is well cared for.

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    From Robyn  
    20 October 2017 at 14:25

    Hello , I have messaged you privately but before I saw this message, It sounds as if your Dad’s condition has deteriorated over the past few weeks and I imagine it has been very hard to see.

    You write that you are waiting for the results of the scan and this will give more information about what is going on. I guess he has an appointment with his consultant to discuss the results and any possible treatment.

    In the meantime I don’t know if you and your dad talk to each other about his diagnosis. It may be that he has previously had discussions with his Dr/specialist nurse about how the treatment was going and not wanted to worry you or he may have found it easier to cope without talking about it - sometimes saying things or writing them down makes them seem more real. He may have just wanted to do things for himself and now need some more help .

    You are obviously keen to make sure he is well cared for and I am sure he knows that. Alongside any treatment he is offered the Consultant may also suggest a referral to the palliative care team - they specialise in managing symptoms eg pain and can also visit your dad at home.

    Is this a blip ? the honest answer is I don’t know, and no-one will be able to know for sure. What I can say though with certainty is, that if it isn’t  a blip, you will find things much easier in weeks and months to come if you talk openly with your Dad now rather than waiting for the ‘right’ time.

    It is a difficult time for you all you, are very welcome to drop into any of our Centres or to message Sue (susieq) or me here at Maggie’s Online Centre and we can talk in more detail

    Best wishes

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