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Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions

Share how you are feeling and swap tips for managing stress with other members and the online team

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newly diagnosed

Started by Anonymous on 25 June 2016 at 09:03


Diagnosed yesterday with breast and lymph node cancer.  I needed to be strong yesterday because family were upset but today I feel so emotional and lost and am on my own for most of the day.  Have some friends I can visit but don't want to burden people - feeling indecisive and guilty.

Are my feelings today usual??




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  • From Anonymous
    07 September 2016 at 19:40
    Edited on: 07 September 2016 at 21:52

    Hi Deb I know exactly how you are feeling. I feel all alone to in room or work full of people because you don't want burden anyone. I to thought I was the only one feeling this but found this site and now know most people feel exactly the same. i am glad I have found this site to vent my emotions and hopefully get through this horrible experience in the most positive way I can. Elizabeth ??

  • From Anonymous
    25 August 2016 at 20:37

    Whoops forgot to say not a breast cancer but Leimyosarcoma apparently comes under rare and nasty bugger!

  • From Anonymous
    25 August 2016 at 20:35

    Newly diagnosed too and trying to find my way through this oh and the online community! Second chemo session on the 31st so I guess from this point I can start to think about Braving the Shave! We have one happening locally on the 3rd if I feel well enough to get there. I'm certainly going to check out the links on this conversation. Oh and to cap it off had a total hysterectomy end of May so finally starting to feel physically better to go and get this bugger to deal with!

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    From SusieQ  
    27 June 2016 at 10:40
    Edited on: 27 June 2016 at 10:46

    Hi Deb,

    I think the first few days of a new cancer diagnosis can feel the most unsettling - as you know that you have a cancer diagnosis, but not the whole story yet...

    If you feel up to it, and you have supportive family and may help to talk through how you're feeling, and help re-gather your thoughts. It's natural to be scared and be feeling like you can't concentrate...many people tell me it all feels very surreal at the beginning...

    It helps to start regaining a sense of control...but that takes time, whilst the mind adjusts to this new situation. Some helpful things to read are listed here:-

    Being told you have cancer - (Maggie's Cancerlinks) - with links to sensible advice and support from reputable websites.

    Talking about cancer - (Maggie's Cancerlinks)

    How to cope with a new cancer diagnosis (Maggie's Cancer Support Specialist's blog)

    And...only when you feel ready..there's a great deal of information online available about breast cancer. To make the internet search easier, we have a Maggie's Cancerlink's section on 'Breast Cancer - help and support'.

    If you're near one of our physical Maggie's Centres, why not drop in and meet other people going through the same experience, and who understand - as well as meet the team there who will be glad to listen, and help you realise that what you're feeling is normal at this stage...

    I'll be in touch via personal message, to see if we can help in any other way...

    Warm wishes


    Cancer Support Specialist - Maggie's Online Centre


  • From Anonymous
    26 June 2016 at 11:48

    Hi Deb, glad it helped. Cancer can be very isolating. You can be in a room full of family and friends and yet still feel so alone. But you're never really alone, there are lots of ladies and men going through this and although no two journeys through this are the same, there is sure to be someone who can offer support and advice on anything you are worried about, or just someone to offer a virtual hug ;-) xx

  • From Anonymous
    26 June 2016 at 11:10

    Thank you for replying  just knowing someone is there makes me feel less scared. xx

  • From Anonymous
    25 June 2016 at 15:41

    Hi Deb, I think your feelings today are totally normal. As are your feelings of not wanting to burden your friends....but it is possible to go and see your friends and talk about other things! Unless you want to talk about your diagnosis. You are definitely at the worst point in all this, the moment immediately after diagnosis, the waiting for a treatment plan. It's a very scary place, the fear of the Unknown. But things do get better. You will have your good days and bad, but you aren't alone and even if you don't want to burden friends (which isn't how they would see it) there is always someone online to listen and to offer advice and support. Be kind to yourself xx

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