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For anyone supporting someone else with cancer

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the yoyo of anxiety

Started by Anonymous on 05 February 2018 at 10:12
Edited on 05 February 2018 at 10:12

My husband went through stemcell replacement after 7 Da Epoch chemo treatmets. brutal but effective. He went septic three times and I was beside him at each step of the way. we had only moved to Glasgow from England a year before and had left all famiy and friends there. I am a vicar , trained to finding coping mechnisms through stressful situatios. HA! not this one. Nearly a year on he is coming up to a 3 month check, I usually get through these times with not much stress. This time is different. Huge flash backs worse than the reality was. images, dreams, anxiety through the roof, fixated on his every move as he has a small virus ATM. trying to work but not heaaring the people or remebering things. I am self diagnosing PTSD. HELP :-) sould i go to my GP. or come to the maggies. I do not want medicating, I want talking therapy. 

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  • From Anonymous
    05 February 2018 at 15:49

    many thanks Sue, I have made a GP appointment, and I feel a little less burdened after writing and pressing the send button:-) . 


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    From SusieQ  
    05 February 2018 at 11:05
    Edited on: 05 February 2018 at 11:06

    Hello,

    The first anniversary of your husband's initial diagnosis sounds to be coming up, and it's an uncomfortable fact that it invarably triggers some deep emotions. You've been through such a lot together - and sometimes it can feel even worse for the partner/family member witnessing all the difficult times.

    The sepsis problems alone would be enough to feel very life threatening - and you've probably felt you must be strong, capable and supportive throughout those months last year. You're possibly permanently on 'high alert' wondering if/when something might happen - and your husband's forthcoming appointment sounds to be triggering memories and flashbacks of last year.

    Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is much more common than we think, for people with cancer and their carers. (see Robyn's blog 'PTSD and cancer'). You may feel frustrated that your own skills and training are not helping much here. Please be kind to yourself - this is the man you love, and it may have felt like you mearly lost him. Enough to trigger the thoughts and feelings you're experiencing today, particularly with the appointment approaching.

    It makes good sense to drop into one of our Maggie's Centres, and have an informal talk with one of our cancer support specialists. You may find this is enough - but you and she/he can decide whether an appointment with one of our psychlogists might be helpful. It would be worth visiting your GP too - simply so he/she can support you too. They won't go down the medication route, unless you mutually agreed - as they are likely to agree that talking therapies are the way forward.

    You can also message Robyn or myself individually to talk anything through - simply writing things down can help feel less alone with everything - and be a safe space for you...

    There will be online visitors reading through your heartfelt message and recognising what you're going through,

    Warm wishes

    Sue


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