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As well as sharing experiences with our friendly online community, registered members are able to contact our experienced online team. The Centre is staffed during office hours and the online team aim to reply within 24 hours.
Psychologists and experts from other Maggie's Centres and partner organisations also facilitate some group and individual sessions.
I lost my Dad on Monday, he had lung cancer and got Pneumonia. since we found out he was sick i have been getting stomach pains every so often. I know its down to the stress but since he died the pains are getting more regular and also appear when i try to eat, I also have woken up on a morning and felt i was going to be sick while getting the cramps. I am finding it hard to finish a meal. Any advice on how to cut back these cramps or even stop them would be great. I really do not want to see the Dr as i know he would just tell me to eat light meals and try to eat regular, which i am doing.
Thanks for the reply I know about Ulcers my Dad got one and it bust. If I get any more cramps i will go c the Dr I have been alot better today only a few cramps after food. I have also seen a Counsellor in the past I am not sure i will have time to see one now though as I work in a Nursery when I go back.
Hi Tracy
So sorry about the sad loss of your father. The trauma of illness and loved ones passing can of course show in our bodies, a you so rightly diagnosed.
First of all, well done for taking the step of sharing on this site as talking about it can go a long way to relieving the stress.
You mention not approaching your doctor as you anticipate the answer. You might have had a similar experience before, where a doctor has stated the obvious, but a good doctor would surely want to see you and hear you out. Stress produced an ulcer in my Mum's stomach and required treatment. Isn't it better to be safe than sorry? At least you could tick that off your list of options.
I have found talking to an experienced counsellor extremely helpful as it seems that people of a certain temperament,phlegmatics, tend to be strong emotionally but their bodies take the brunt of it especially the digestive system. Connecting to their emotions can help them process the stress.
I hope this is helpful. The main thing is that you should not feel alone at this time.