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Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions

Share how you are feeling and swap tips for managing stress with other members and the online team

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struggling.....

Started by Anonymous on 27 October 2017 at 16:39

Hi, my name is Sandra, I'm new to this site and very nervous as to what to say about myself. I am currently having chemotherapy and am struggling with things emotionally right now. Although i feel the need to talk to someone or some people i dont like talking about my actual illness and all the ins and outs of it, the more i do, the more details i know and hear or read about the more frozen with fear i get and the less quality of life i am having. I find myself under a huge dark cloud that doesnt want to leave me and everyday i wake up feeling the same way and not knowing what to do about it. I try to have positive thoughts but its really difficult. I need some help.....someone to talk to that understands....it feels like everyone with this illness wants to talk about their condition, treatments, prognosis etc and i dont, i cant i get debilitated by fear if i do. please is there anyone else out there that can relate to what im saying and understand me? i feel so very alone :(

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    From SusieQ  
    30 October 2017 at 09:45

    Hello Sandra,

    Welcome to Maggie's Online Centre. It sounds as though you've hit a natural dip emotionally - it's a lot to deal with, having cancer and undergoing treatment.

    Chemotherapy itself is exhausting, and does seem to lower our emotional resilience. On top of that, it sounds as though you're a bit 'cancered out' information wise - dreading that you might hear negative things, along with the positive.

    It's hard to be 'positive' all the time - in fact, sometimes there's a great deal of pressure to be positive and upbeat - when it's the last thing many people feel like doing. So, be kind to yourself...this is a tough time in your life, which many people on here will recognise.

    I'm wondering if you live near one of our Maggie's Centres, Sandra...it may help to drop in, and speak with others about how you're feeling. You could talk with one of our cancer support specialists, about how you're feeling - it's not uncommon for people on cancer treatment to become anxious and depressed. It might help to talk through how you're feeling with your GP too?

    It's tempting to compare your story with others, and when you're low in mood, only focus on any scary details. However, your cancer experience and response to treatment, will be unique to you.

    You're welcome to message either Robyn or myself to talk anything through - being heard can ease that sense of isolation that cancer and it's treatment often brings...

    Warm wishes

    Sue

     


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