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Topic 'Today I am feeling' - managing emotions

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Started by Anonymous on 27 November 2014 at 06:32
Edited on 27 November 2014 at 06:48

I was diagnosed with Stage 3 esophageal cancer on December 27, 2011. As of today, I still am cancer free after a 9 month treatment plan and major surgery. I don't know what it is but lately, like the past 2 or 3 months my self esteem has been horrible. I lost so much weight. Because of it, I feel ugly! I hate when my husband talks to healthy women or looks at pics of other women on Facebook. I've never been like this or felt like this before. He is faithful and I trust him, I just hate the way I look and I need to figure out how to feel better about myself. Ugh! I've talked to him about how this makes me feel, but it just doesn't seem to click with him. For example, tonight a woman we just met asked me a question and he just completely dominated the conversation for over an hour. It didn't help the fact that she is fit, with a boob job and she was wearing a bikini top that barely covered her up. My husband and I just had a big argument about a pic of a girl he clicked on to blow up a scroll through a few pics...he apologized and said he wouldn't do it can he really be this oblivious? :/ I wish I could feel better about myself.

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    From Robyn  
    27 November 2014 at 11:32

    Hello, I am sure other members will be able  to identify with   how  you are feeling.  

    You have been through a difficult and traumatic time and  for many people   even if they  felt they coped well during treatment it is  some time after treatment that the emotional “hit”  of the whole cancer experience takes place.  

    It can be hard to  fit back into or feel “normal”   when so much has changed outwardly and inwardly  and  can take time for  confidence to return – emotionally and physically.

    I think it would be helpful for you, as well as to share with others with similar experience,  to get some additional support.

    I I don’t know where you are based, you would be welcome to drop into any of our Centres  as wel as talking to  a Cancer support specialist  our Centres offer many different courses and workshops that  would help you to regain your confidence and help you to find you way forwards.

     You are also welcome to message any of the team here at Maggie’s online Centre if you would like to talk things over privately.  Myself and Sue “susieq” are both experienced cancer nurses and you may also find it helpful to get in touch with  Caroline “carolineh” our nutritional advisor and  she can advise you on foods to help you to regain the weight you have lost  and help you to feel more like yourself.

    There is also a book I think you would find a useful read The Cancer Survivours companion.  It is a very practical guide for managing emotions after cancer treatment and has lots of tips for both the person who has been treated and those supporting them .  There are copies in our Centre’s  libraries  and also in most public libraries you can get a sneak preview  on the Amazon website.

    I hope this is helpful and please do get in touch if you would like to talk things over

     Best wishes


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